philosophy of love!

philosophy of love!

Hello people! for those who havn't read this.. an interesting article forwarded to me! nice one... apparently, explains you everything about a relation... kudos to the writer of this article! EVERYONE!comment on this after u guys read!

For ages, saints, philosophers and geniuses around the world have tried understanding the subject of romance and love, but to their dismay, this "phenomenon" couldn't be explained and to your disbelief, it could be the next thing that would happen to you and yet you wouldn't be able to explain it. And mind you, Albert Einstein had a divorce! Well, I'm a guy here and in this blog, i shall try to put a guy's perspective to this subject... And guys! for ages, we have tried understanding girls, and all were in sheer vain! And for all the readers and bloggers reading this extract, this is not one of those "10 ways to get a girl" misconception, but just my expression of dismay and disbelief! ;)

Let's put it that way! Any guy has this internal urge to have a female companionship which is consistent for the rest of his life. Guys roam around flirting in the beginning of their hormonal change stages. They can't get committed at that point of time. And if they do, it is bound to break out of his own frivolous decisions. But as they move on, at one point of time, they lose this flirtatious interest and look for a committed companionship. And in fact they get bored of flirting and require a person with whom they can share their innermost feelings. A guy might superficially look well-built and tough, but he is the most vulnerable at heart... a very emotional being. On the contrary, girls, who look a lot weaker than guys are the toughest nut when it comes to their emotions and feelings. They are sometimes cold in the name of being "practical". Well, no offence meant to the woman-hood out there, it is just a crude fact. And you know it yourself! I'm not saying they are not emotional, but always forego their emotional side for their practical side... Let me prove it wrong by the end of this page!

Every guy at this stage of companionship needs a girl who will really understand him. We love every other small fights that happen with a girl, because at the end of it all, that is what will bring in the stimulating element called "Spice" in it! Once we guys decide that the girl is worth his efforts, he wouldn't be interested in any other girl immaterial of other offers that he might run through! Or even if he does, it might be just one of the reasons to make her jealous or just for the heck of it and will never be intentional. Guys who actually have an infidel nature are not worth your efforts girls... because at the end of it all, their basic need is their basic instinct "SEX" and I think no girl would want to lose their life over such guys!

Coming to the romance part, When he likes a girl, it is not for the "SEX" thing that he likes her... it stands as a testimony of her character and the person she is! And for God's sake, love is never just sex to a serious guy! I don't know if this is one of the misconceptions that every other girl has.... Let me tell you, we never want to take advantage of the girl whom we truly love! We too value culture as we all have a certain family background. We understand your insecurity but there's no other way to express it. The least we would want to do are explained in the next paragraph...Well, speaking about me, I've had crushes as any other guy would have... But a guy realizes his true love when he has this need for companionship and when he finds a girl who would really satisfy the need... and the need is not based on instincts, but feelings. I've or lets say I'm in love with a person whom i treasure the most... more than myself... and this is not a statement of impracticality but a word from the heart... I treasured her as my best friend and slowly started realizing something inside of me... Felt for her so much... and not because of her looks... but for the person as she is... As I said in the previous paragraph, the things which a Guy would want to do... I at least wanted to do all these... I'm also giving the explanation as to what it means to a guy. I'm sure no guy would reject it... );

1) Hold hands with her. [it simply means we love her support and just feel her close to our heart]

2) Go for a long walk in the evening holding her hand. [It simply means, we look forward to a future with her and she means more to our future]

3) Sit on the beach at sunset with arms around her shoulder [It simply means, we just love her company and would love to share our emotional side with her]

4) A hug [Gives us a sense of comfort that they're there for us]

5) And finally, a kiss. [This is just a way of showing affection and a one-to-one feeling]

And lets be frank! If any girl is going to fight over with the above five points saying this is crap! Then it is really not being practical! Ask any girl whether she wouldn't like these? She'll be hesitant in answering!This is every other guy's story, where he'll approach the girl and the first thing you'll face is rejection from the girl! Very typical answers and actions would be:

1) She would say she is not interested in such stuff as love and it is all crap! Let me ask you a question girls, seriously, are you all not planning to get married? The way you answer seriously gives us the image that you're going to dedicate your life to social service. And if by chance, any girl is seriously interested in that, no guy would put a full stop to it! We have aspirations and we value the same as that of our partners!
2) "I couldn't see you as my soul mate!" Do you girls think of this question when your parents arrange for your marriage? Or even think of whether he's the right person for you if you were to think of this question? And do you ever think of the "missing chemistry" that you always keep saying about?
3) "I just saw you as my friend" and this again is a very non-sensical answer! At the bottom line, you're a female and we're males! what more do you want in a guy for the existence and continuation of human race?!

4) "I just saw you as my brother" This is the worst of answers! apart from being humorous, lets be a little practical here! We're not born from the same womb! and no guy would want to propose to his sister! We don't live in an Egyptian Civilization where brothers married sisters! We're talking of a proper sensible civilization here! We're not desperate!

I don't know know why these answers crop up! But at the end of it all, its just serious crap! Look at it from a sensible viewpoint! If you were to ask these questions to yourself girls and then decide a guy is never worth it, then he's really not worth it!

1) Has he got the capacity to earn and stand on his own as well as support a family?

2) Is he one of those jerks, who keeps playing around with women?

3) Is he loyal?

4) Can he be a good partner who gives me the freedom to pursue my aspirations?

5) Has he got the guts to face any problem or is he one of those losers who will just quit at the face of a problem?

If you're worried of your parents' acceptance, no parent would deny a responsible and settled guy. At the end of the day when they select one for you, its going to be the same criteria under which they would select apart from being "a good guy" factor!

Let me tell you all one thing! We guys wont forego our future for anything. And we're not mad to do that! Even for our basic existence, we need to settle down! And we wont give our lives for the sake of love! All we wanted was to share the living with you... If you're not ready for it, you're the one missing his share! And we're not gonna die for that! We've got aspirations on our own! and we also have parents to think about! We do have their dreams to be fulfilled! And if at all a guy decides to do that! then be cautious of him! Because he's not even got the guts to face failure and life with him will be miserable! So, if you girls have doubt on us settling down, then we're sorry! we cant explain more than this!

To conclude it all, all i wanted to say to the womanhood was to take decisions based on their heart which is more practical than their practical side... In the beginning of it all, it would seem a little insecure, but then see, as we grow into a responsible adult. And take off all those notions from your mind and make your decisions a little sensible. This is not to degrade woman hood but to make you understand that we guys are not idiots! I love my mom and she has been the best support to me, right from the day I was born, in spite of her nervous disorder! I treasure her like no one else! She has this determination to make this family run in spite of the difficulties and failures! Now thats being one sensible and one hell of a lady! love you mom!

later,

MADDY